Many times when we’re setting goals, we might hold back from writing them down, or committing to them for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it may be because we feel that we’re not ready or equipped to begin working on the goal. Sometimes it may be out of fear that we will not achieve it. When we hesitate, there’s usually a type of language that formulates around the hesitant behavior of committing ourselves to, and that’s called soft language.

Soft language includes words and phrases that allow us the flexibility to “out” ourselves of a commitment. Some of these phrases might include:
*I think…
*I feel…
*I probably…
*I might…
*I sort of…
*I kind of…

Sound familiar? Think about the times that you might’ve used this language. “I think… I can run a mile under 10 minutes.” versus “I will run a mile under 10 minutes.” Which of the two goals sounds like it will be accomplished? Or even, attempted?

Often times we don’t even realize that we are using these phrases or this kind of language because it’s become a natural part of defending our fear of failure. Over the years, we’ve experienced failures, rejections, maybe a scarcity, or we’ve plateaued, and was unable to overcome. We call upon soft language versus solid language to help protect our ego against those from happening again.

Well here’s the thing about growth: you need to forget your ego.

Face the potential failure or possibility of falling short, and commit to your next goal or next vision with solid talk and not soft talk. Solid talk asserts the commitment and further, the possibility that you will make that next action happen. Solid talk just turns the uncertainties into certainties:
*I know…
*I will…
*I certainly…
*I am…
*It is…

The best part about goal setting is that it’s not static. Just because you are writing it down, it doesn’t mean that you can’t change it. As your life’s circumstances change, your goals will change. As the unexpected occurs, you change your idea of the future expectations to follow. (Side note: Try to commit to a goal for at least a minimum of 3-4 weeks before changing it).

As you identify and determine your goals for the upcoming year, use solid language and FORGET YOUR EGO. Don’t be afraid to not achieve your goal–be afraid of not attempting it with confidence and when needed, support from others, to help get you where you will be.